The Investment of the wedding bell ....

It's never an enjoyable thing to hear that couples are calling off their weddings last min due to whatever reason(s).

Perhaps, deep down inside, he/she/they knew there is unresolvable difference(s), and it wasnt meant to be...

Or look at it this way, maybe it's better to find out the worst now than later on ?

Or worse, did they get engaged for the right reasons ?

Reflecting upon myself, when I do propose, it will be because I want to marry and take care of her. I believe that's the best proposal we man can ever give our ladies - to mean what we vowed ... heh

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On a same note, was talking to her about the incident, and I brought out an interesting comment:

"I put in so much effort for this relationship liao... of course have to endure and compromise lah..."

In fact, she was initially worried about my perception if things dont work out eventually.

Both of us agreed that many (esp Singaporean guys) see r/s as an "investment" for their time, effort or even money, such that it's the primary focus they get sucked into in the aftermath of a break-up. And this is not healthy most definitely.

To me, I see my other half as someone who is there to share my happiness, joy, sorrow and many more... we do things together and enjoy each other's company. She is never an "investment" or object where I expect any returns or anything. If ever the day comes where we are just not meant to be (I am touching wood now), I will just walk away like I did with my ex.

I never ask for any return of gifts previous given, or etc. Perhaps, an apology (if I am clearly in the right) would be enough ... haha. That being said, once I give up that's it, no such thing as looking back and thinking of reconciliation too.

Dun get me wrong, there would be some lingering feeling of loss linked to not getting anything out of the r/s... but it has more to do with the habitual attachment(s) and sense of loss than anything. Meanwhile, learning what has gone wrong and what I could have done better for my next r/s is the way to go. Thus, as heart-broken as I will be, I need and must move on... life is too short to dwell into this abyss of darkness so much so that we often fail to see the light at the end of the tunnel.

Sad and devastated I will be, but moving on I must and I will !

Just my two cents worth....

As for us, let's just say she and me, we are special for each other. Hee